Have you ever observed someone who fails to employ an appropriate communication style when addressing a less-than-ideal situation? It appears as if the individual fails to grasp the nuances of either the situation or the ongoing nature of the relationship with the individual to whom he/she is speaking?
No, to this individual, communication is always wielded as a blunt offensive weapon in other than polite conversation...painful to observe as a third party. More sadly observed when the casual observer immediately recognizes that either the situation is of non-life threatening magnitude and/or the recipient of the missile is caught totally off-guard. Equally so, the recipient of the undeserved and unforeseen attack recognizes the interpersonal shortcoming in the delivery.
If you are simply observing this inappropriate use of communication, then you may be the individual who recognizes that a much calmer, rational, team-oriented communication style would serve far better to facilitate the solution while maintaining the desired ongoing nature of the relationship. True, some individuals will travel their entire lives dispensing ignorant tirades, leaving needless destruction behind, without ever concerning themselves with the constant need to begin anew (friends, partners, vendors, employees). In fact, instead of recognizing his/her own brutish behavior, that very individual may always blame the others for the departures, divorces, and discontinued business relationships...
Something good comes from observing or enduring this style of sledgehammer communication... one learns never to practice it upon others. The insecure, angry individual who exhibits this brutish behavior unintentionally delivers a teaching moment that can bolster our own interpersonal dynamic. At a common sense level, we recognize that appearing to be a jackass--regardless of title, status, or elected office-- is an appearance that no person of integrity would ever aspire to.
TODAY'S QUESTION: Is there ever really a need to use communication as an blunt offensive weapon in everyday interpersonal discourse?
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